Commiserating “Te-kill-ya” Punch

The “Thoroughbroads” experienced major life changing events over the years they met for monthly luncheons in Louisville. Divorces, illnesses, career changes, family crises  were shared with each other over a delightful meal, tasty libation and camaraderie. You see… women usually want someone to listen to them…not just hear them. We need to share our story. It helps us to sort things out, make personal decisions and to heal or learn from the experience when it is shared. We are not always looking for someone to solve the situation, We want compassion, which will shore us up to meet the issue head on and find our own solutions.

For the “Broads”, the meals we eat, the adult beverages we enjoy and the setting for the get-togethers are just part of the big picture. The comfort of exposing your inner issues, thoughts, needs or successes to true friends is sometimes comfort enough. Of course, if the issue is large enough, TRUE comrades will stand with you or fight along with you if you ask.

Now don’t for a minute think the gals in this group were perfect listeners. Some of us would share an opinion about your dilemma and not all of us would agree. And some of us would just listen and then call that “special Broad in the group” and maybe say something like, “ WHAAT THE??” But that is just normal when you gather gal pals. We tend to ganer all of the details and into a large opening of a funnel and then drill it down smaller and smaller until we find an answer we can live with or they can and sometimes that drilling down requires a gal to call a bestie and feel free to express a little shock to get it out of your system.

I am happy to report that in this group of Broads; it always came down to supporting one another. Whether we were on board with the person’s final decision or not, we were her shoulders…and that proved to be enough. Of course, an adult beverage always helps when you are divulging a confidence.

Here is a recipe we always found helpful.

Commiserating “Te-kill-ya” Punch Recipe

Based on one of Martha Stewart’s Tequila punches. Watch yourself it can be truth serum!

Ingredients:

16 ounces of Jose Cuervo Gold

 ¼ cup Cassis

 ¼ cup fresh lime juice

24 ounces of a ginger beer

12 ounces of Club Soda

Thinly sliced lime slices to use in an ice ring to keep the punch cold

*Margarita salt for rimming the glasses

*Lime peel curl for garnish

Stir all ingredients together in a 4 quart punch bowl then add the ice ring and garnish.

**IMPORTANT TIP – Be sure to temper the punch bowl first with cold water…if you pour super cool or a hot liquid into glass it can crack! Another gal pal saw this happen at an event with a borrowed antique Waterford glass punch bowl …not good!

…That should explain the picture of the Waterford Punch Bowl above.

 

 

The Cookie Exchange

One of our alternate “Thoroughbroads” started a tradition during the holiday season we all looked forward to each year…a cookie exchange. Yes, you have heard of them, but Diane’s were exceptional every year. Each guest baked 13 dozen cookies, 12 to share with others invited to the exchange and one dozen to munch on at the party and take home if not eaten. We all went home with a covered laundry basket full of freshly baked cookies to enjoy over the holidays or share with friends, so none of us missed coming!

We arrived at Diane’s home in either an ugly sweater or a casual outfit adorned with that holiday jewelry or accessory you can only wear a week or so in December. A few wore handmade items their kids had made in school, others wore stylish necklaces (remember this was the late 80’s, so big and boldly bedazzled was in), and some showed off their holiday socks given to them the year before by some older relative. Each of us was greeted by our hostess with a champagne flute full of an Asti cranberry punch and to make sure we had a lively time that punch bowl was kept full. Nothing better to put you in a festive mood, we all agreed.

Diane’s dining table was set with foods of all kinds. Our hostess, being from the South, made sure you were not going to leave hungry and we were encouraged to eat more than one plate. A beautifully baked spiral cut ham was the centerpiece every year and served with homemade biscuits and Durkee’s dressing. A hashbrown casserole or cheese grits were a staple along with corn pudding and the infamous green bean casserole. Traditional comfort foods seem to always be wanted at that time of year, so now was the time to splurge. You behave yourself all year until Thanksgiving and Christmas come, then those of us from the southern states expect the old traditional favorites. The cookies we all made were served as our dessert, but our favorite goodie was our gift of Diane’s famous chocolate covered cherries…two huge ones to a red box tied up with a beautiful white ribbon. They were divine and she would not share the recipe. She had learned how to make them one year and sold them to her husband’s company for their client gifts one Christmas. She told me privately that she had made enough money to buy her own brand new Volvo that year! She knew she had a hit on her hands and I don’t blame her in the least for not sharing the recipe with us…after all, a gal has got to do what a gal has got to  do in order to drive a brand new Volvo, right?

Years have passed since those fun times and many of us have moved away from each other, but some of us have stayed in touch. And every Christmas I still get a red box tied with white ribbon and two chocolate huge covered cherries from my gal pal of over 28 years. I smile as a slowly savor each bite and value our friendship.

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I plan on making these tea cookies I saw for next Christmas…but for this year I will share my mother’s Frieda’s Dish Pan Cookie Recipe she acquired from her elderly neighbor, Madge, in the North Carolina mountains in the late 80’s…you will need a dish pan to make this much cookie dough, but it makes DOZENS to give and they are delicious and easy!

Preheat oven to 325

4 cups all purpose flour

2 cups sugar

2 cups brown sugar

1 tsp salt

2 tsp baking soda

2 cups cooking oil

4 eggs

2 tsp vanilla

Mix all of this together now add and mix well 1 1/2 cups quick oats and

2 cups of corn flakes

Drop only 1 tsp of dough on a cookie sheet until you have filled it up with dollops about 1 1/2 inches apart..they spread while baking. Bake at 325 for only 8-10 minutes until lightly brown, then remove with metal spatula and let cool on a piece of wax paper. Continue until you have used all of the dough…you will be surprised how many it makes, and how quickly they get eaten.

 

 

The Kentucky “Thorough-Broads”

Six women from cities (other than Louisville, Kentucky) meet in “the ‘ville” in the late 80’s and early 90’s. They become fast friends and enjoy a once a month Friday luncheon where they don’t solve the world and each other’s problems, but listen and give advice over a wonderful meal by their hostess. Thus, the “Thorough-Broads” prove that being an East end housewife has it’s challenges, but friendship support and good food can make memories that last a lifetime.